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Rainbow Babies

Found this definition of Rainbow Babies and I wanted to share with you guys… Have you heard the term? Rainbow babies are babies that are born after the loss of a child. But, I found a better definition : Rainbow Babies” is the understanding that the beauty of a rainbow does not negate the ravages of the storm. When a rainbow appears, it doesn’t mean the storm never happened or that the family is not still dealing with its aftermath. What it means is that something beautiful and full of light has appeared in the midst of the darkness and clouds. Storm clouds may still hover but the rainbow provides a counterbalance of color, energy and hope.


So I know it’s been a while since I posted anything on here, but I just want to let you know I haven’t forgotten about any of you. I recently had a miscarriage in April so life lately hasn’t been the best,  which is the reason for the subject of my post today. It references the fact that I have had an Ectopic Pregnancy, a Neonatal Death and now a miscarriage. I’m at an all time low and for the most part have pretty much given up hope in my entire existence.  I know I shouldn’t be feeling like this and I should in all figurative sense of the phrase “dust my self off and get back on my horse”, but in times like this it leaves you feeling empty and dying inside. Losing yet another baby brought back all thoughts and memories of Nickolas’ death and it broke my heart into a million pieces all over again.

I’m so sick of everyone telling me stuff like “you’ll have a baby when the time is right” and “you’re still young don’t worry”. I know baby loss is a pretty unknown subject, not very talked about and almost taboo, but do people seriously understand what they say when they’re uttering words like that? Pardon my french but I honestly don’t give a shit if I’ll have a baby “when the time is right” it still hurts right now! Especially when I thought (foolish me) that the Higher Power in life wouldn’t let something like this happen to me yet again. Although it might sound like self-pity or however you may want to classify it, I sit alone at night and wonder when is it my turn to be happy. I see countless friends and family getting pregnant or having babies and I long to be in their shoes. Any way I think I’ve written enough for now considering tears are flowing down my cheeks. Remember to stay strong and if you can’t stay strong cry your eyes out because no one can tell you how and when to grieve!

Life After Death

No this isn’t some “I died and came back thing”, this is my post about what life is like almost two years after Nickolas’s death. I sit here reading what I wrote almost year ago and tears still fill my eyes. I don’t know how I ever got through those times, but I did and I’m here to say it is doable. I am not and will never say it’s easy, but it can be done. I will say that you can never ever let anyone tell you how to grieve. I mean okay there comes a point in time where you have to do like me and pick yourself up and dust yourself off and continue living, but never in a million years let anyone tell you it’s not okay to cry or think and miss your loved one. Remember take baby steps in your road to life after death, if you can’t take it one day at a time take it one hour at a time if you can’t do that take it in 10 minute increments. You’ll never fully recover from the loss but it will get better, try to take a moment to breath and calm down if you start feeling overwhelmed. Also please remember to surround yourself with positive people because negativity will only make the loss hurt more. Anyway I could talk all day about this stuff so I should leave some info for later.

Songs Of Grief & Loss

Songs of Grief and Loss.

A good site I found of songs you can use for what ever the occasion of grief and loss, also some other things on this site about miscarriage and what not.

Hey everyone I know it’s been awhile and I’m sorry. You’ll be happy to know that I’m doing amazing, I’ve finally gotten past that pothole and I’ve begun to start looking at the positives in life! So if I can do it, you can too, I never thought a year ago that things could get any better but I sit here today in total amazement of myself that I have come this far.

Almost There

So it’s 8 days away until the worst most painful day of my life. I don’t really know what to say at this moment because every day it’s gotten closer the more and more depressed and anxious I’ve been getting. I wish I could tell everyone it’s been easy but it’s been excruciating to watch the days tick down to this awful day.

Each day I long to hold him in my arms more and more, the pain rarely subsides and leaves me in peace. Almost a year after I sit here and feel like a horrible mother because I can remember holding him and loving him but I don’t remember what it feels like, my arms have been empty far too long. Honestly I can’t remember much from the time Nickolas was born until the day he died, I remember the events but the actual time together is a blur. I sit here night after night wondering if it would be best for me to join him because I don’t feel complete and I am definitely not myself anymore.

In my year’s journey through grief I have found that although people always say it’ll get better, they don’t really understand what it does to you. Even though I don’t do anything all day my grief exhausts me to the point where I feel like I’ve been working 12hr shifts every day. Even when I’m up and out I still get sidetracked and end up thinking about my great loss.

Any who I’ve got a lot to think about before next week, so I think this is enough for the day.


All I have to say today is blah.

Chatroom Added

Good news guys, I went searching on the web and I found an API for a chat-room, so now if you go to the page at the top “Chatroom” you can click on it and chat amongst yourselves, just remember to be nice, you can talk about anything you like 🙂 Remember it’s a safe place to grieve. I’ll try to check back as much as I can! Oh and my chatroom nick name is rockbottom just so you know when I’m online 🙂

Hope you enjoy it!

23 Days & Counting

So the days are getting shorter and so is the time between now and the day I’ve been dreading for a year. I don’t even want to think about it because the closer it gets the more irritable and depressed I get.  I’ve been so yucky and I’m pretty sure that by the time this is over everyone’s going to hate me.

I’ve been breaking down more often and at the simplest things. All anyone  has to say is one thing about him and I feel like crawling into a corner and never coming out. Any child I see makes me burst into tears, like today at the beach there was a little 21 day old baby next to our vehicle, he was cute as pie but I just couldn’t handle it took everything I had in me not to cry.

I’m going to see how I feel in another week, hopefully I will feel better!

Good Bless ♥

Funeral Songs

So it’s happened and unfortunate as it may be, you’ve made the funeral arrangements and the Funeral Home Director asks you if you would like the organist to play or if you would like to bring your down music. So what do you say to him?

Well this site has compiled a nice list of songs that can be played while a funeral is in session.

Heavenly White Doves

I personally chose more kid oriented songs for Nick’s funeral. But you can choose what ever you feel is appropriate.

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