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Life After Death

No this isn’t some “I died and came back thing”, this is my post about what life is like almost two years after Nickolas’s death. I sit here reading what I wrote almost year ago and tears still fill my eyes. I don’t know how I ever got through those times, but I did and I’m here to say it is doable. I am not and will never say it’s easy, but it can be done. I will say that you can never ever let anyone tell you how to grieve. I mean okay there comes a point in time where you have to do like me and pick yourself up and dust yourself off and continue living, but never in a million years let anyone tell you it’s not okay to cry or think and miss your loved one. Remember take baby steps in your road to life after death, if you can’t take it one day at a time take it one hour at a time if you can’t do that take it in 10 minute increments. You’ll never fully recover from the loss but it will get better, try to take a moment to breath and calm down if you start feeling overwhelmed. Also please remember to surround yourself with positive people because negativity will only make the loss hurt more. Anyway I could talk all day about this stuff so I should leave some info for later.

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Now What?

So it’s been over a year since Nickolas’ death and I’m still confused. Now that I’m over that extreme feeling of grief I don’t know what I should think. There’s so much I should do and could do it’s very overwhelming, there’s work or school even volunteer work. I know life needs to go on but I don’t know how to go about it being so detached for so long.

I’ve thought of studying to get my GED or finding a job or both and I know it’s what I need to do to get my life back on track but it’s intimidating to say the least.I think what’s holding me back the most is my back injury, as much as people think I’m lying the way the hospital messed up my back leaves me in pain when I walk more than 5-10 minutes or sit in a chair for an hour or so, even laying down gets uncomfortable after a while. If I try to go for Disability everyone’s going to call me lazy and think I’m crazy because I’m only 20 and if I sit at home and continue doing what I’m doing everyone is going to tell me it’s time to move on. I’m stuck between a rock and a hard place and I don’t know how I’m ever going to figure this out.

I mean let’s say I get my GED so I’ll have my diploma out of the way, that means I’ll be able to A) Go to college or B) Get a job. Either way it involves finding a job which means sitting, standing and everything else that comes along with working. It all comes back to my back and I really curse the hospital here in Sudbury for doing this to me, I used to walk miles and miles a day and now it hurt to walk to the 5 minutes to Wal-Mart. I don’t know I guess I’ll have to do my best to figure this out on my own, I mean who else is going to make decisions for me but myself. This is what being a grown up is all about!

Songs Of Grief & Loss

Songs of Grief and Loss.

A good site I found of songs you can use for what ever the occasion of grief and loss, also some other things on this site about miscarriage and what not.

Hey everyone I know it’s been awhile and I’m sorry. You’ll be happy to know that I’m doing amazing, I’ve finally gotten past that pothole and I’ve begun to start looking at the positives in life! So if I can do it, you can too, I never thought a year ago that things could get any better but I sit here today in total amazement of myself that I have come this far.

Death Anniversary

http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Death_anniversary

If you check that out, it’s got the history of a Death Anniversary….

I will write more about Nick’s later 🙂

4 More Days

So the big day is in 4 days, and it’s really weighing on me! I just want to crawl into a corner and not come out for 24hrs with a giant box of tissue. Although I know that’s not plausible nor is it healthy it’s what I really want to do!

I am trying to think of something to write but my mind’s been so occupied I can’t think of anything!

Blah

All I have to say today is blah.

Chatroom Added

Good news guys, I went searching on the web and I found an API for a chat-room, so now if you go to the page at the top “Chatroom” you can click on it and chat amongst yourselves, just remember to be nice, you can talk about anything you like 🙂 Remember it’s a safe place to grieve. I’ll try to check back as much as I can! Oh and my chatroom nick name is rockbottom just so you know when I’m online 🙂

Hope you enjoy it!

23 Days & Counting

So the days are getting shorter and so is the time between now and the day I’ve been dreading for a year. I don’t even want to think about it because the closer it gets the more irritable and depressed I get.  I’ve been so yucky and I’m pretty sure that by the time this is over everyone’s going to hate me.

I’ve been breaking down more often and at the simplest things. All anyone  has to say is one thing about him and I feel like crawling into a corner and never coming out. Any child I see makes me burst into tears, like today at the beach there was a little 21 day old baby next to our vehicle, he was cute as pie but I just couldn’t handle it took everything I had in me not to cry.

I’m going to see how I feel in another week, hopefully I will feel better!

Good Bless ♥

Funeral Songs

So it’s happened and unfortunate as it may be, you’ve made the funeral arrangements and the Funeral Home Director asks you if you would like the organist to play or if you would like to bring your down music. So what do you say to him?

Well this site has compiled a nice list of songs that can be played while a funeral is in session.

Heavenly White Doves

I personally chose more kid oriented songs for Nick’s funeral. But you can choose what ever you feel is appropriate.

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